I am incredibly lucky to work at Standard Chartered being 100% me.
I started at Standard Chartered in 2008 and was able to just say I had a partner who happened to be male. My work colleague just took it in his stride. It wasn’t always that easy.
I started my career in 1994 and until 2007 I couldn’t be open with work colleagues, so I took a strong stance to completely delineate my personal and professional life. They basically never crossed.
Until that day when my Mentor at the time just asked the question, “Why are you so unhappy?”. He obviously felt that despite performing well, there was something missing. He tapped into that unhappiness and asked the question. It’s simple really when I look back. But, at that point I had to face up and either brush the question aside or deal with it once and for all. I chose the latter. After that, I just reconciled that my colleagues can accept me or not.